Do you suffer from perfectionism (完美主义)?
According to psychologist and perfectionism researcher, Hamachek D.E., there are two types of perfectionism: normal and neurotic (神经质). A person with normal or healthy perfectionism feels a deep sense of pleasure from the dull effort of working towards “perfect”. And then there are the neurotic or unhealthy perfectionists who never feel satisfied but keep struggling towards impossible goals. These people often measure their own self-worth entirely in terms of productivity and accomplishment.
self-worth entirely in terms of productivity and accomplishment.
It is necessary to notice if you are struggling and feel tense while trying to perfect your recipe, article, parenting, job, project, etc. — you are fighting and resisting your own humanness (人性).
How do you know if you Suffer from perfectionism?
● Are you afraid of making mistakes?
● Do you get impatient with others when they make a mistake?
● If you fail an assignment (任务) at work or school, do you feel like a failure?
● How do you feel when you read these questions?
Your relationship with yourself is the foundation for all of your other relationships. If you are hard on yourself, then you will in turn be hard on others. If we are unable to care for our innermost (内心深处的) beings, then our lives will reflect this fault in some way.
Embracing (拥抱) your own humanness is the doorway to seeing the miraclet4(奇迹) of who you are at your best.
Dr. Bernie Siegel writes in his new book on miracles,“Our body loves us, but it needs to know we love our lives in order for it to do all it can to help us survive. The change in body energy motivated by the love leads to chemical changes in our body and makes a difference. In many cases, this kind of miracle needs hard work. But when you are willing to do the work, and live in your heart, it can happen.”
64. According to the text, people with neurotic perfectionism probably _______.
A. worry about their health
B. get great pleasure from their hard work
C. accept no failure in life
D. take great pride in doing dull work
65. The major difference between normal and neurotic perfectionism lies in_______.
A. self-confidence
B. self-expectation
C. sense of accomplishment
D. sense of satisfaction
66. What does the author suggest to people who suffer from perfectionism?
A. Being patient with others.
B. Respecting human nature.
C. Forgiving their own mistakes.
D. Sticking to their ambitions,
67. In the opinion of Dr. Bernie Siegel, the miracle has roots in _______.
A. love of our life
B. chemical changes in our body
C. hard work
D. eagerness for success