What parents owe their children?
I take the firm position that parents do not owe their children a college education. If they can afford it ,they can certainly send them to the best universities. But they must not feel guilty if they can't If the children really want to go, they'll find a way. There are plenty of loans and scholarships for the bright and eager ones who can't afford to pay.
When children grow up and want to get married their parents do not owe them a down payment on a house. They do not have the duty to baby-sit their grandchildren .If they want to do it must be considered a favor not an obligation.
Do parents owe their children anything? Yes ,they owe them a great deal.
One of their obligation is to give their children a personal worth .A child who is constantly made to feel stupid and unworthy .constantly compared with brighter brothers, sisters, or cousins will become so unsure，so he/she is afraid of failing that he/she won't try at all. Of course they should be properly corrected when they do wrong, but it's often better to let children learn their mistakes by themselves in time. All our parents should do is to trust them respect them, tolerate them and give them chances to try and fail .They must learn to stand failure. When criticisms are really needed ,they should be balanced with a smile and a kiss .That is the way children learn.
Parents owe their children a set of solid values to build their lives. This means teaching them to respect the rights and opinions of others; it means being respectful to elders, to teachers, and to the law The best way to teach such values is by deeds .A child who sees no laughter and no love at home will have difficulty in laughing and loving.
No child asks to be born. If you bring a life into the world, you owe the child something.
