Finding acceptance is a natural desire of most people .When we are young ,it is important for us to be accepted by a group and to be seen as "cool" by our friends and classmates .To do this ,we will often take up the views and interests of the group rather than develop our own.
Over time, however ,we have the opportunity to learn to accept ourselves .People who have done this are confident in their true abilities; they do not feel the need to create a façade to impress other people .They are concerned with whether their actions produce worthwhile results rather than with how they are seen by others.
Less secure（有把握的）people are quite different .Instead of finding security in themselves, they look for other people to provide it .This kind of person constantly agree with everything others suggest ,for fear of having their own ideas refused. Secure people do not give up when faced with a difficult situation ;they say "I can "rather than "I can’t". Knowing that each day is an opportunity to use their talents to acquire good health, good friendships ,and great happiness, they always do their best.
Recognizing the details that we cannot change about ourselves is also a sign of personal growth. We cannot change our height ,so why waste energy complaining about being short ?Our energy would be better spent on more constructive projects .Instead of thinking about personal characteristics we are not satisfied with ,we ought to focus more on what we are good at .Such expressions as "love yourself "are about self-acceptance and confidence, as well as honesty and morality .We should consider them to be good advice, and treat them as signposts showing the way to happiness within.
1．The purpose of the author is to tell us _________.
A．the differences between secure and less secure people
B．the importance of accepting ourselves
C．how to find happiness
D．how to become secure people
2．The author would probably agree that we should ________.
A．be accepted by a group first
B．improve the personal characteristics we are not satisfied with
C．know our own disadvantages first
D．be confident in our true ability
3．Less secure people are more likely to find a sense of security by ______.
A．seeking agreement from others B．giving themselves up to others
C．finding fault with others D．changing themselves
4．Which of the following is a typical way of doing things of secure people ?
A．Asking others for advice before taking action.
B．Putting the interests of others above their own.
C．Focusing on people’s disadvantages.
D．Devoting their energy to more constructive projects.
5．The underlined word "facade” in the second paragraph probably refers to _______.
A．a kind of behavior to hide one’s true feelings
B．a special opportunity
C．a difficult question
D．a light atmosphere in which both sides feel at ease