In this article you will discover several techniques you can use to improve your interpersonal relations with friends, family, coworkers, and employees. In fact, you can use these techniques to influence others to have a positive attitude toward you in just about any type of relationship.
1. Don’t criticize or complain about people.
There’s no faster way to create resentment toward you than to criticize or complain about a person. Instead of telling people they’re doing something wrong, consider asking them questions to try to find out why they do what they do. Offer them an alternative in a way that comes across as (给人以……的印象) trying to help. Show them how doing things the way you would like them done can benefit them or lead to reward.
2. Appreciate people.
I’ll let you know a secret that vastly improve your interpersonal relations very quickly: whenever you see someone, imagine them wearing a flashing sign on their chest that says APPRECIATE ME, PLEASE! Then, give them what they want.
3. Be genuinely interested in others.
You’ll make a lot of friends by being interested in others. Not everyone will admit it, but the truth is, most people’s favorite subject is themselves. Use this to your advantage. Become genuinely interested in other people. Ask them questions. Talk to them about things they’re interested in. Put the focus on them. You’ll quickly gain their friendship.
4. Be a good listener.
This goes back to the principle of focusing on the other person. Listen more than you speak and encourage others to talk about themselves and you’ll quickly develop good interpersonal relations with them.
5. Make others feel important.
If someone is important to you in any way, tell them so! This goes for any type of interpersonal relationship! People like to feel important. Give them what they want and they will love you for it.
41. The underlined word “resentment” in paragraph 2 can be replaced by ________.
A. sadness B. anger C. pleasure D. exhaustion
42. When your friends do something wrong, you are advised to ________.
A. point out their mistakes B. correct their mistakes
C. put forward a new plan D. solve the problem for them
43. What’s the purpose of an imagined flashing sign on people’s chest?
A. To attract others’ attention. B. To remind people to talk to them.
C. To remind people to praise them. D. To help people to remember them.
44. What should we do if we want to improve interpersonal relations according to the passage?
A. Listen more than we speak. B. Try to argue when we are right.
C. Get people to be interested in us. D. Talk more about things we’re interested in.
45. What does the passage mainly talk about?
A. How to make others feel important. B. How to listen to others.
C. How to improve interpersonal relations with others.
D. It’s bad to criticize or complain others.