Why are so many people so afraid of failure? Quite simply because no one tells us how to fail so that failure becomes an experience that will lead to growth. We forget that failure is part of the human condition and that every person has the right to fail.
Most parents work hard at either preventing failure or protecting their children from the knowledge that they have failed. One way is to lower standards. A mother describes her child's hurriedly-made table as "perfect"! Even though it couldn't stand on uneven (not same in height) legs. Another way is to shift (转移） blame. If John fails in science, his teacher is unfair or stupid.
The trouble with failure-prevention methods is that they leave a child unequipped for life in the real world. The young need to learn that no one can be best at everything, that no one can win all the time and that it's possible to enjoy a game even when you don't win. A child who's not invited to a birthday party, who doesn't make the honor roll or the baseball team feel terrible, of course. But parents should not offer a quick comfort prize or say "It doesn't matter" because it does. The young should be allowed to experience disappointment and be helped to master it.
Failure is never pleasurable. It hurts grown-ups and children exactly alike. But it can make a positive contribution to your life once you learn to use it. Step one is to ask "Why did I fail?". Control the natural impulse (冲动) to blame someone else. Ask yourself what you did wrong, and how you can improve. If someone else can help, 'don't be shy about asking them.
81.This passage mainly tells us about_________.
A. the reasons why people fail
B. how to fail
C. the ways to prevent failures
D. the importance of facing failures
82.When the writer says "every person has the right to fail", he means to say"_________".
A. the world is full of failures
B. everyone makes mistakes
C. failures are not common in our lives
D. no one can grow up without failures
83.By "protecting their children from the knowledge that they have failed", the writer means that most parents try their best_________.
A. to let their children know that they won't fail
B. to teach their children about knowledge of failure
C. to provide their children with the knowledge against failure
D. to keep their children from realizing that they failed
84.According to the writer,_________.
A. parents should tell their children to think nothing of not being chosen into a football team
B. children should be encouraged to get rid of disappointment by themselves
C. parents should judge what their children have done as it is
D. children should learn to enjoy a game that they won't win
85.According to the passage, if you are facing failure, you should_________.
A. blame someone else.
B. face it yourself and not ask others to help.
C. forget it as soon as possible.
D. think it over and find way to improve it.