You feel happiest when you create a healthy balance between giving and receiving. If you give and give without making time to fill your own needs, then it's likely you will burn out, or feel upset. When you take and take without giving anything back, you never feel fulfilled, so you are always searching for ways to fill the void in your life.
The way to create a healthy balance between giving and receiving is to know and then live by your values. I break values up into two groups which I call being and having values. Your being values are the character traits (痕迹，特征) of the ideal person you would like to be. I suggest to my clients that they choose three being values that they are willing to make a commitment (承诺) to live by. Examples of some being values are: kind, loving, generous, inspirational, peaceful, wise and even powerful. By acting on these values you give others through your actions and you inspire others by being a positive role model. Mastering being these character traits becomes your life purpose.
Your having values are the feelings you need to create in order to be happy. These could be companionship, achievement, support, being valued or financial security. They are what you receive. You take responsibility for filling your own needs by taking steps to create these feelings and conditions in your life.
74. The main purpose of this passage is to _____.
A. persuade the readers to make a commitment
B. explain to the readers what personal values are
C. inform the readers how to be truly happy
D. instruct the readers how to make wise choices
75. According to the text, living by your being values, you would _____.
A. gain a lot of power B. form positive personality
C. seek all human virtues D. fill your own needs
76. The underlined word "void" in Paragraph 1 means _____.
A. a feeling of emptiness B. an absence of one's mind
C. a break of consciousness D. a state of confusion
77. From the passage we can infer that _____.
A. having values are better than being values
B. a calm person does not choose to complain
C. the way other people think of you decides who you are
D. a responsible person does not care about financial security