How to be more friendly and social
If you tend to be shy, it can feel uncomfortable to put yourself out there socially. 36 You can make the extra effort to be more friendly and open to others, while still keeping your own personality.
37 The key to connecting to other people is showing interest in them. When you’re truly interested in someone else’s thoughts, feelings, experiences, stories, and opinions, they’ ll like you for it. You’ll make far more friends by showing your interest rather than trying to get people interested in you.
Be genuine (真诚的). 38 If you’re just pretending to listen or care, others will pick up on it. Rather than promoting greater connection, your efforts will likely have the opposite effect. No one likes to be manipulated (摆布). If you’re not actually interested in the other person, then stop trying to connect.
Pay attention. 39 By paying close attention to what they say and how they interact, you’ll quickly get to know them. 40 Don’t ignore the details, such as remembering someone’s preferences, the stories they’ve told you, and what’s going on in their life.
A. Faking (伪装) takes talent.
B. Focus on others, not yourself.
C. Little things go a long way.
D. Getting to know them is the key.
E. Make an effort to truly listen to the other person.
F. Showing interest in others can’t be faked.
G. But you don’t have to be naturally outgoing or the life of the party to make new friends.