American students' concern for freedom lies in two patterns of behavior that Chinese students often notice: an unwillingness to make social commitments and vague and changing definitions in acquaintanceships, friendships and dating relationships.
American students tend to make social commitments only at the last minute. Many Americans want to have the freedom to do what they want,when they want, in order to maximize their chance of having "fun". Chinese students sometimes feel frustrated by this. They feel personally insulted because they interpret it as a sign that the Americans are not truly interested in them. However, this behavior is often a sign of valuing personal freedom, rather than a reflection of their feelings about other people.
The Americans' vague and changing definitions about acquaintances and friendships also puzzle Chinese students. American students use the term "friend" very loosely. They might have one or more friends whom they call "friends with benefits". This fluidity (不稳定性) in relationship definitions can be very puzzling to someone from a culture that values clearly defined relationships between people.
American college students have "parties" to socialize. The typical American party consists of people talking in small groups or pairs while drinking alcoholic beverages and perhaps snacking on some dry food or " chips and dip" . Loud music may be playing. Department receptions and parties often feature beer or wine.
Many of the people at these parties may be strangers to each other. When invited to a party, Americans are relatively unlikely to ask, "Who will be there?" They are accustomed to meeting strangers and starting conversations with them. The parties usually do not include games or large-group interactions. So individuals must take the initiative to introduce themselves to strangers and talk with them.
Many Chinese students find these parties boring or stressful. Chinese tend to be more accustomed to dinners as a way to get together with friends or acquaintances. Few, if any strangers, will be at a dinner. The atmosphere may be quieter and conversations deeper than at a typical American student party.
55. Why do American students make social commitments only at the last minute?
A. Because they fear to be frustrated by irresponsible promises.
B. Because they are cautious about making friends.
C. Because they are always busy attending parties.
D. Because they want to make the most of every possible chance to have fun.
56. A Chinese student will feel upset with an American student because he thinks _____.
A. the American student should make an earlier commitment
B. the American student is not really interested in him
C. the American student doesn't consider his feelings
D. the American student wants to squeeze fun out of their sufferings
57. Why are Americans unlikely to ask who will attend the party when invited?
A. Because they are used to meeting new people at the party.
B. Because they regard it as a chance to make more friends.
C. Because they care more about the food and drink served at the party.
D. Because they tend to get together with friends.
58. How will Chinese students feel when they attend a party where there are many strangers?
A. Many of them will feel stressed.
B. They will see it as a chance to meet new friends.
C. They will feel free to talk with strangers.
D. They will make the most of their chance of having fun.